by Patricia | Jul 23, 2019 | Blog, Creativity
Would it be wrong of me to stop actively pursuing a date, or romance, or anything in the world of someone trying to get in my proverbial pants (up my skirt or dress, really, as I rarely wear pants) To stop with the dating apps and the story of a single-girl-in-the-city- trying-to-be married-and-a-mom Until I have some modicum of heart-healing? I used to think might’ve been born heartbroken. But then I learned a few years ago that when my parents came together and conceived me they were in love. I presume out of love came a whole loving being. But then love does beget heartbreak, right? Or is that just a story we like to tell? Unfortunately for me, the version of my parents’ relationship I know the best is the one where they tore away from one another. Their tearing away from one another is the root of my tears. What do you say to a woman who’s been love-sick since she was six? I say to her that you actually deserve better from you than to expect for your heart’s healing to come from some dude. I say to her that it sucks that you were just looking at a list of men who’ve expressed that modicum of interest known as a swipe right on Bumble but you disbelieved their interest. I say to her that you get to have boundaries and maintain them. I say to her you don’t have to “give it a try anyway” and “be open minded” when you know that he isn’t your type, in the app, or in real life....
by Patricia | Apr 8, 2017 | Blog, Creativity, Empowerment
Honesty is the best policy, but not the easiest. It’s the best because we live in an honest Universe. The Universe is not a liar, and won’t support you in your lies. The Universe functions on truth. When we lie to ourselves and others, the Universe will seek that lie’s correction. So either we let the correction happen through us (that is, we fess up, we confront, we shine a light in the shadows) or the Universe does it for us. The truth comes out, finds a way to be seen, ensures that it won’t be ignored. While being the truth agent isn’t easy, it is easier than having the truth forced upon you, or me, or others. Let yourself be an agent of truth. An agent of the light and keeping things in the light. Not the same thing as telling everyone your business, by the way. No, we don’t really need to know all that you have going on, as “honesty” is not the same thing as “show and tell.” But in the living of your life, as long as you embrace all that is you and your life, you are living honestly. As long as you are living in full expression of your truth (verbal and nonverbal), not in hiding, you are living honestly. And you’ll find when you take this approach that the Universe will respond quicker to your desires. The Universe will show you unprecedented favor, in the way all things show you great favor when you speak their language, when you vibe along their energetic wavelength, when you go in the direction they’re...
by Patricia | Dec 21, 2016 | Creativity
I promise to be more artsy. More colorful and warm. More color-filled and color-effusive. To splatter my paint’s shades as far as possible. I am edgy and prickly and forthright and I promise I’ll stay that way. Color isn’t meant to blunt my edges But it’ll make the wounds I give you bleed prettily, and will distract you from the pain I impart. I do not intend, really, to hurt you or anyone else. I am just aware that I can cause hurt, like you can too. I promise to keep this in mind and d0 what I can to not prick you or cut you deeply. But it’s not avoidable, The bruising that can come from interaction. I can be a crusher, a bull in a china shop but I’ll walk in the shop a bit more gingerly, paint brush, pen and floral tape in hand creating as I mend emoted wounds finding healing in my personal...
by Patricia | Jul 26, 2016 | Beauty, Creativity, Dating, Empowerment, Joy
I’ve been reading a lot of writing by the “body-positive” (or the tryna-be-body-positive) community about what it is to be body positive. I have experience and a perspective on this topic, shaped by the times: When, as a child, I got comments about what I was eating, in comparison to everyone else. When, as a child, I had to justify why I was eating a piece of cake at a birthday party. When I was told that I could not wear red because of my size. When the word “fat” was used in reference to me, with disdain. When I’ve been asked if I thought I needed to lose weight. When I dated him, and him, and him, and they all told me how beautiful I’d be if I lost weight. When people questioned how hard it must have been to be me, in comparison to my skinny mother. When I bought a wedding dress and was told that the empire waisted gown was best, despite the obvious uni-boob. When I eventually bought the slim fitting fit-and-flare gown. When he told me that he wouldn’t marry me until I lost weight. When he told me that his mother told him to never bring home a fat girl. When he cheated. When I read the email he sent to the girl he cheated with, telling her that she needed to lose weight for their relationship to develop. When I determined that if I was not good enough for him to marry as a fat person, then he was not good enough for me, period. When I began using affirmations daily, like, “My...
by Patricia | Jul 3, 2014 | Blog, Creativity, Empowerment, Featured, Joy, Wellness
There will be music and mantras. Bob Marley, and OMs. There will be sounds of nature. Raindrops and rainforests. There will be centeredness. There will be inner stillness. There will be peace. Starting on Sunday, July 6, I’ll be sharing my favorite meditation audios and videos everyday, for 30 days. The challenge is to use that audio or video and meditate everyday. The meditation audios/videos range in time, from a minute to about a half-hour. You’ll get a heads up in advance about the expected length of the week’s meditations. You are encouraged to use the shorter meditations if time doesn’t permit for the longer ones. You are encouraged to give the longer meditations a go! If you take the challenge, you’re very likely to gain a habit of finding stillness and centeredness. You will gain the ability to rein in your experiences with stress and anxiety. Commit to this challenge, and it’s quite possible that you will begin to experience a slice of serenity in your otherwise busy day. Commit, and get a taste of what meditation has to offer. Provide your email below, and/or like me on Facebook and follow along there. Summer Shine! Meditation Challenge * indicates required Email Address * First Name * Email Format html text...
by Patricia | May 26, 2014 | Blog, Creativity, Featured
This one’s for you if you: Have something to say Are fairly literate Have writing instruments (pens and paper are fine) Have an imagination One of the quickest ways to get in touch with your creative force is to write. Good grammar and a deft use of language are great but not necessary. This exercise is not as concerned about your reader as it is about using and strengthening your creative force. How to do it: Pick the best time of day for you to spend 20 minutes writing. Mornings are preferable for this exercise, particularly right after you wake up, as the creative juices are the most “loose” when you’ve come out of your dream state. If mornings can’t work, however, then right before bed is the next preferable time. Get your writing instruments together, and then at the allotted time – get cracking! 20 minutes is recommended. Do this on a regular basis – once a day is best. The more you use your creative force, the stronger it’ll be. After some practice you’ll find that you will make connections with different ideas and aspects of your life readily. The act of writing, for the sake of writing, makes it easier to create in a variety of ways. Keep in mind Steve Jobs’ quote about creativity. Also, you might find that you like what you write, and you want to share it! Or you’ll find that you like the act of writing and want to get better at it. Both these results lend itself very well to sharing and honing your craft. There’s tons of ways to go about...
